Tell me why you thought you would be successful meeting women at the Georgia O’Keefe exhibit? Or in that yoga class? You have no business being there. Sure, a lot of women will be in attendance, but your presence there is contrived- you’re not fooling anyone. You have no interest in the matters at hand, so what are you going to talk about? How are you possibly going to engage, let alone connect, with anyone there? You’re a fraud, and it’s really really obvious. Nobody likes a poser.
Sorry, but Ihad to vent- this needed to be said. This is particularly a big problem men choose to create. Meeting people in public can be a beautiful thing, particularly if it’s random and not by design. However, purposely putting yourself in a foreign environment for the purpose of meeting women is time well wasted and horribly ineffective, not to mention embarrassing to watch- ever see “Jersey Shore”? The whole point of the dating process is to LEARN about the other person so both can determine if there’s a match. Crowbarring yourself into an environment where you’re not knowledgeable, and not comfortable, makes you an obvious fraud. Here are some thoughts to consider:
Put yourself in an environment where you’re comfortable, and knowledgeable- you’ll have plenty to talk about.
Being in a comfortable environment removes a lot of stress; it will only seem ‘natural’ for you to be there and your presence is genuine
Ultimately, if both parties are in a friendly environment which promotes communication and a learning experience- a connection is much more likely
Don’t crowbar yourself into an obvious awkward situation. Change the venue for the sake of promoting communication- you’ll look genuine and maintain integrity- she’ll also see there’s no ulterior motive and want to reveal her feelings and thoughts.
Patrick Coleman, President and Head Dating Coach of www.PhillyDatingCoach.com is passionate about coaching singles looking to improve their communication and dating skills to find true love. Patrick may be reached at patrick@phillydatingcoach.com for any inquiries regarding his coaching programs in the Philadelphia and surrounding areas.
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